The most precious and beautiful gifts God has given to me and my husband would be our children. Oh how quickly the years flew by and to now see them as young and independent adults starting a new chapter in their lives with Fiancees.
From the day we found that we were expecting I prayed and asked God to give us a healthy baby and let my husband and I be a good parent and providers for them. Parenting is hard but yet so amazing and rewarding! Sorry, there is no manual on how to do the “perfect parenting plan”. You place your trust in God that you make the right decisions and ask and seek for guidance and protection. God never failed us and I continue praying and haven’t stopped yet. And please understand there is no such thing as a perfect parent so wipe that out of your vocabulary.
If you diligently heed the voice of the Lord your God and do what is right in His sight, give ear to His commandments and keep all His statutes, I will put none of the diseases on you which I have brought on the Egyptians. For I am the Lord who heals you. Exodus 15:26
Now, as adults our son 24 and daughter 21, I pray every morning that our son and daughter are protected in every single area of their lives and their significant others Mentally, Physically, Spiritually, and Financially. Helping them to make good decisions in their lives and to be kind and patient to others. To always work hard at everything you do with a positive attitude and know that you will be rewarded in due time for that hard work. To always be respectful to others and kind-hearted. Remain faithful and true in your relationships and never ever settle for any form of abuse coming from anyone.
The mercy of the Lord is from everlasting to everlasting on those who fear Him, and His righteousness to children’s children, to such as keep His covenant, and to those who remember His commandments to do them. Psalm 103:17-18
We no longer have control over the decisions they make in their lives. We have to trust that they will be grounded and know right from wrong and set healthy boundaries in their lives protecting them and their relationships. The most powerful weapon we can use as “empty nesters” is to never stop praying for our kids. A few years ago I found a book from Stormie Omartian, The Power of Praying for your Adult Children. Her book is amazing, she has many stories where she shares and provides verses to read to get you through the highs and lows of life our kids will endure.
Our kids know that they are always and forever in my prayers. All I ask of them is to keep God as their focus and priority. To remain close as brother and sister, even when you have disagreements you still love and respect one another and be forgiving. Place it behind you and move on. To always truly Love Yourself first, before you fall in love with anyone. Setting healthy boundaries in life, keeping yourself away from anything toxic that can damage and destroy yourself and your significant other.
Do not enter the path of the wicked, and do not walk in the way of evil. Proverbs 4:14
If you find yourself as a parent struggling with something that may warrant concern, talk to them but don’t judge or belittle them. You ‘ll only push them away and that is not your call in the first place. I trust what the Lord has in store for them. I know without a doubt HIS PLANS ARE BETTER AND BIGGER THAN MINE!
My prayer for my son and daughter is they are happy, safe, devoted and faithful to God and their future spouse. Never ever give up when you’re facing a trial and a difficult time. Be there for each other in love and support. Treat each other as equals and work as a team in any situation.
I am so very proud of both kids and I can’t wait to see what the future holds for them.
Written by Tamera Boynton
Blessed be the man who trusts in the Lord, and whose hope is the Lord. For he shall be like a tree planted by the waters, which spreads out its roots by the river, and will not fear when heat comes; but its leaf will be green, and will not be anxious in the year of drought, nor will cease from yielding fruit. Jeremiah 17:7-8
Eye has not seen, nor ear heard, nor have entered into the heart of man the things which God has prepared for those who love Him. 1 Corinthians 2:9