As we are walking through our journey here on earth, we will experience a complete loss of hope and despair. We will face many trials and tribulations that we cannot control but face with faith. Until Jesus returns, we need to remember to focus on the right things, as Paul reminds us in Philippians 4:8. He reminds us that despair will be replaced with Peace when we think on the right things. Revelation 21:4 He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.
When you hear the word Tragedy you think immediately of death, devastation, despair, overwhelmed, sad, anger, dreadful, or a fatal event or affair. We face so many ugly things in this world. There is so much hatred, anger, and sins, that one act creates chaos and devastation like a domino effect in a heartbeat. Everyone deals with a tragic event in their lives differently from one to another. The stages we will go through are not in any specific order because we cope in different ways at different times they will vary.
Denial – Refusing to believe what has happened, feeling shocked and numb, feeling of being outside of the body, hopelessness.
Anger/Rage – Why did this happen to me? How dare he/she do this! What was this person thinking?
Bargaining – Asking God to “cut a deal” with you. And put back what was taken away.
Depression – Experiencing listlessness or exhaustion combined with feelings of helplessness, guilt, and lack of interest in life. Lack of appetite and dropping weight quickly. Isolation, suicidal, unworthiness, self-blame.
Acceptance – Facing the loss and moving on, returning to setting goals in your life and focusing your energy more positively. “I’m ready to deal with this now.” With God’s help and seeking help from a support group or counselor.
From experience, I can tell you this from the heart, when a tragedy in your life happens whether it is your marriage, family, friend or you’ve witnessed a tragedy in front of you, it literally rips your heart out and soul. You cannot think, eat, speak, sleep. The anger is literally raging within you and you just want to scream at the top of your lungs and lose control.
As you try desperately to crawl out of the deepest darkest pit you see ahead an illuminating light and you fight with all your heart, mind and soul to run to Jesus and collapse in his arms giving all your anger and sadness to Him. He does heal you and makes you stronger than you’d ever imagine you could be. I give God all the glory for taking one of my trials that I had to endure and walked through the fire with faith that He was right beside me and indeed He was. It was about 3 weeks before I finally broke out of my “Turtle Shell” from all the stages I had to go through, and gained strength becoming stronger and more healthy.
The scars are still there, and sometimes those scars can get ripped back open and have salt poured into them by the person that inflicted the damage. FIGHT, PRAY and SEEK God to hold you and shield you. Giving full credit to the Lord for all he has done for me and that is why I chose to start a blog on “Walking In Grace By Faith” because I have endured so much (just as you have too) and I placed my full complete faith and hope in Him and He took over. 2 Corinthians 1:10 He delivered us from such a deadly peril, and he will deliver us. On him, we have set our hope that he will deliver us again.
Do not ever give up. Don’t listen to satan’s words and lies, YOU ARE WORTHY! You are loved and you are very important to many people out there including God. Start by surrendering all to the Lord and giving Him the pain, frustration, anger and depression and you will have Peace and feel His Presence around and within you. Philippians 4:19 And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.
Encouraging and Empowering verses for you:
John 5:24 Truly, truly, I say to you, whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life. He does not come into judgment but has passed from death to life.
John 16:20-22 Truly, truly, I say to you, you will weep and lament, but the world will rejoice. You will be sorrowful, but your sorrow will turn into joy. When a woman is giving birth, she has sorrow because her hour has come, but when she has delivered the baby, she no longer remembers the anguish, for joy that a human being has been born into the world. So also you have sorrow now, but I will see you again, and your hearts will rejoice, and no one will take your joy from you.
Romans 15:13 May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.
Hebrews 4:15-16 For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.
Revelation 21:4 He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.
By Tamera Boynton