Anger… everyone has it in them and learning how to deflate it in the heat of the moment is another story. Finding tools to use for your safety and others is vital and you should have been taught from childhood to present, on how to cope with anger in a safe manner for the safety of yourself and other people.
Everyone experiences anger in some way in their life by being verbal, crying, yelling, throwing items, pushing it down deep within themselves allowing it to bottle up, or worse being physical with another person.
Because the Scriptures speak of anger as a sin which causes harm to the people around you, those who wrestle with a quick temper and struggling with controlling anger cannot write it off as something they cannot control. Instead, you must learn how to control yourselves and put your hot tempers to death.
An uncontrolled temper can do untold damage to yourself and the people around you. When we lose our temper and cannot manage our anger, you say harsh things and act in irresponsible ways. In Proverbs, Solomon speaks often about chaos you cause when you fly off the handle. Not to mention the damage it does to your heart and blood pressure.
Because the Scriptures speak of anger as a sin which causes harm to the people around you, those who wrestle with a quick temper and struggling with controlling anger cannot write it off as something they cannot control. Instead, we must learn how to control ourselves and put our hot tempers to death.
My parents argued all the time and seeing my father have outbursts of rage and yelling, spewing profanities, and threats scarred me for life. If you’re not educated then, of how toxic it is and dangerous you will allow it to become a part of life for your future your relationships, marriage, and family. This is especially true for those who deal with a quick temper and outbursts of anger. You see one or both parents struggle with it, you struggle with it, and it seems like a family trait you just have to endure for the rest of your life. Unfortunately, the progress seems so slow in fighting it that you face the temptation to give up and say it’s just the way you are. Instead of learning how to control your anger and deal with it, it’s a lost easier to ignore it after the fact.
“A man who is kind benefits himself, but a cruel man hurts himself.” Proverbs 11:17
“A man of quick temper acts foolishly, and a man of evil devices is hated.” Proverbs 14:17
“Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly.” Proverbs 14:29
“A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1
“A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention.” Proverbs 15:18
“It is an honor for a man to keep aloof from strife, but every fool will be quarreling.” Proverbs 20:3
Start your morning off every day asking the Lord to keep you calm, polite and respectful to others and think before you speak. Pray for your situation if you’re angry or disappointed about something that was said or done before you confront that person. Exercise does well for the soul to get away for a bit to let off steam, ask the Lord to help you calm down and then deal with the matter. Never resort to being physical to other people or to self-harm. No one wins in that choice.
Make sure you eat and have enough sleep so you can think straight and function. Don’t hold on to the issues at bay allowing the to build up within you and blow a gasket when you’ve hit that pressure point. Pray and read the Proverbs when you’re struggling with issues of anger. Schedule an appointment with a counselor or an accountability person that can be there for you.